We’ve all met someone who’s shy. The girl who blushed as soon as you spoke to her. The friend who went bright red every time he saw the cute girl across the road. Probably you’ve suffered from shyness… yourself if you’ve found yourself in an unfamiliar situation.
Remember the first time you joined a new group or started a new job? It happens to us all, but some people are just naturally able to cope with it better than others.
If you find that you suffer from shyness whenever you find yourself in certain situations, here’s a few tips on how to stop being shy.
Take a few deep breaths before you enter the room. Learn a few techniques which help you to relax. Whether that’s consciously relaxing certain muscles, for example, your shoulders and neck or whether you choose to close your eyes for a few moments to compose yourself, the choice is up to you. Practice a few and see which works best for you.
Don’t Know What To Say Next?
Find something to take your mind off your shyness. By getting involved in an activity, you’ll be less likely to turn your thoughts to what others are thinking of you. For example, if you’re at party, offer to help with the food. At a meeting, offer to take notes.
If someone speaks to you, listen to what they have to say and show interest in what they’re talking about. Even if it’s something you’re not particularly interested in, it’s polite to give them your full attention and it’ll take the pressure off you. If it’s up to you to start the conversation, remember to keep it light, don’t pry too much.
One way to make conversations easier is to have a few subjects ready that you can talk about. Ask where they live, what they do for a living, where they go to school. How about recent TV shows or favorite singers, anything really, but with a little practice you should be able to find something that’s of interest to you both.
Bear in mind that a lot of people in the room will be in the same situation as you. They may not be a confident as they look. They’ve probably got some of the same hang ups as you and they’re looking for a friendly face and a warm smile.
Remember that people generally want to be friendly, so smile. A genuine smile goes a long way to establishing a rapport. People find it very difficult not to return your smile. So practice smiling right now – it will certainly make you look less shy.
So Who Can Teach You How To Stop Being Shy?
How about someone who’s actually done it himself?
Sean Cooper (ex shy boy) is the founder of The Shyness and Social Anxiety System. His system is a science-based way to overcome shyness that’s been tested on over 1,500 people already. All the techniques in it have been tested and proven to work for real people time and time again.
Or if you prefer to read, then the system also comes with a 122-page digital manual in PDF form. With both of these options, you have instant access.
At present Sean is also offering 4 publications free as a bonus when you purchase his system.
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